How to deal with unwanted feelings

I have been trying to deal with the grief that comes when both parents die within a month of each other, and find that old patterns such as feeling anger and feeling unloved come up at strange times. I wanted to find a way to support myself instead of getting angry with myself for how I am feeling. This quote from Abraham-Hicks, reapplied to the relationship with the self comforted me and gave me a method: I allow myself to feel whatever I feel, don't argue, but instead visualize a positive outcome. Try it for yourself!

If we had a child, or anyone, and we caught them doing something inappropriate, we would not amplify it with our words. We would identify what it is we do not want, and then out of it would come the rocket of desire of what we do want, and then we would just visualize, visualize, visualize, until we find peace within our vision.

When you make someone and their action the heart of a vision that you've spent time on -- your relationship improves, your experience is better, and they receive the benefit of the experience. But if you catch them, and see them, and worry about it, and put mechanisms in place to prevent it, now you have not only amplified it, you have now made a commitment that is hooking you both into that, until usually it gets big enough that you break apart, and then you attract others to fulfill that role.

--- Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in Chicago, IL on Sunday, April 25th, 1999 # 42